When someone asks you how you are doing, sometimes out of habit you might blurt out, “Oh, just fine.” However, the Bible warns us not to lie to one another.
It’s OK to be discouraged from time to time in the midst of your job search. Just admit it to yourself and others. Trying to blurt our smiley words in an attempt to mask your heartache may not even work for you much less for others. And, you’re certainly not fooling God.
Many of David’s words found in the Bible are dripping with discouragement. “I am weary with my crying; My throat is dry; My eyes fail while I wait for my God.” (Psalm 69:3 NKJV) This sounds very much like someone who is discouraged to the depths of his soul, don’t you think?
David is admitting his human frailty, his true sorrow and his need for comfort from God. He is being honest with himself and that honesty starts in his head.
Likewise, being honest with yourself and others about your real mental status starts inside your own head. Don’t harbor any lies about how you are feeling or what you may be thinking about your job loss or the status of your job search. Be truthful, starting with yourself.
That doesn’t mean that when a stranger on the street asks you how you are doing that you launch into a depressing, detail-filled sob story. However, you can be honest by saying something like, “I’m doing OK. I’m between jobs just now, but the Lord is good.” This response balances your negative feelings with words of positivity and thankfulness. The door is now open for the other person to ask for more details and perhaps provide some help and encouragement.
Particularly with your spouse or other family members, be honest about your emotional state. Trying to hide behind a smiley face won’t effectively mask your true feelings any more than you can put on an angry face when something wonderful has happened in your life.
“Do not lie to each other, since you have taken off your old self with its practices.” (Colossians 3:9 NIV)
Express your true and honest feelings to yourself, to your family and friends, and to God. By doing so you will be able to drop your phony cover-up, honestly confront your emotions, and allow others to be of genuine support to you while you continue your job search.
By Keith Lundquist
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